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Saturday, September 19, 2009

All you need is a belief in yourself & something bigger than small minded people

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Today's post is about the spirit of determination. I was thinking about some of the negative communications I received from people throughout my life and accessing the value of those words as it relates to the life I have today. It means absolutely nothing.

I know a lot of you might say well I am successful or pretty but there is nothing special about me that the universe doesn't afford to you too. It too sheer determination and will in spite of all the things that were thrown at me and against me, to continue on a path that I knew one day would bring me peace, satisfaction and joy in my life.

I am surrounded by friends and family now but there were times when it was absolutely no one but me and my God and I had to have the faith to believe that he loved me as much as he loved the people around me being blessed.

When I think back to being in school I think its funny now that kids would allow other kids who absolutely know nothing about life tell them what they can and can't do and who and what they will be in life.

Let the words of others motivate you every negative thing you hear should be the inspiration to do you. Make the very weapons they use to try to break you down motivate you to something greater.

Not that life is a competition but there is a certain satisfaction when you can smile in contentment being and doing what you want in life and having those same people be witness to it.

There are no obstacles in life the challenges of life are what makes the goal worth achieving.

NOTHING WORTH HAVING IS EVER EASY

love you pumpkins

Chanel

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Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Know who is in your life(retweet plz)

Today I will be talking about the people in our lives and their reasons for being. You all know of my spirituality and my open mind of thinking about all the people and situations that I am in. I am never one to sit back and believe that the world is happening around me and I have no control over what is going on in my life.

I like to take a more active role in my life as much as I believe in God I believe that I can have a direct relation to what happens in my life by my way of thinking or looking at every situation and person that is in it.

I am grateful for all of the people that come by my way not just those that love and adore me. I feel that I can get something from everyone I come into contact with some people are examples of what I want to be in life even more important are those that are examples of what I don't want to be. Sometimes when we are not living up to our best we can see it better in others than we can with ourselves. They are a mirror of something that we need to be changing in ourselves, that is why the very sight of them will annoy us so much we see too much of ourselves in them.

You know I don't believe in chance encounters or meetings I believe everything is directly and divinely ordered and its up to us to figure out who and why these people are that are in our lives and the purpose or lesson we should be getting from them.

So my encouragement for you today is to evaluate the people you come into contact with today see what the reason is for their being in your life at this time get the lesson to be learned and remember there is nothing as a truly unimportant person, everyone has something to offer in life if only as an example of what not to be or do in life.

Take care pumpkin

Chanel

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Friday, September 11, 2009

Reflections of 9/11

The tragedy of the twin towers affected so many people in our nation. All of us can vividly remember where we were at the moment the planes hit or the feelings and emotions we had as we watched in horror as the towers came tumbling down.

There are many ways we can look at any situation. While it seems unfair that so many had to die in such a horrific way. When we sit here in America and enjoy the blessings of the type of society it's easy to forget that there is suffering all over the world that we turn a blind eye too. The twin tower tragedy shone a light on the ugliness we still have in the world. Watching those planes crash in and the surreal images broadcast into our homes on every single channel brought us to a place where we can not bury our heads in the said and pretend we don't know how things globally affect us. I am often reminded about how many of the countries had knowledge of what Hitler was doing with Jews but it wasn't a major concern because it was them not us.

We all have a global responsibility to see to it that the basic human rights of all people are respected until this is a reality no one is truly free.

There is no us and them the planet is not as large as it seems and what happens will eventually affect us all. Life is a never ending circle and the ripple effect will touch everyone.

TODAY YOU SHOULD VOW TO BE A PART OF CHANGE IN THE WORLD START WITH YOURSELF AND YOUR FEELINGS ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE

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OOO I gotta start loving myself (Retweet plz)

Not to sound repetitive after watching the Tyra show yesterday it brought up a lot of feelings in me. So you know what I do best is use my words. I find it really sad that so many people in the world feel like shit and they want the world to join them. I will not be party to this folly. I encourage all of you today to be independent thinkers. You should never allow anyone's opinion of you to become your reality. Be you inspite of them if you know that you are living your life and going about your way not harming another fuck what another person has to say about you, your life or your circumstance.

On the subject of looks you know how I always feel, love begins at home. It's always funny to me how people go about their day praising the beauty of others and don't even take the time to start your day by saying I love you to the most important person and that is self.

I am often accused of being conceited stuck up or arrogant. Any one that takes the time to really get to know me knows this could not be further from the truth. I will not cease to love myself and remind myself how much I love me just because it makes those that don't like themselves feel more comfy.

Remember today that you shouldn't give anyone in this world more than you give yourself first.

Take care and enjoy the weekend pumpkins

Chanel

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Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Breakout

Breakout by Swing Out Sister
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There are times when you are doing something and you just have to re evaluate situations and make new plans. Lately I have had to do this myself. So in continuation of what I have already started and proven time and time again.

I am speaking of business but this can too apply to a persons personal life. No one will ever have your best interest at heart as much as you do or should. I have always had a very hands on approach to all things concerning me and I encourage you to do the same thing.

Remember don't sit around waiting to be fed go out and find your own food.

That's all for today pumpkins short sweet and to the point.

Chanel

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Tuesday, September 1, 2009

TEN TIPS FOR DATING OR INTERACTING WITH TRANSEXUALS

I came up with this short list for a few men a year ago that were struggling with transexual ladies after hearing all there stories this is what I came up with as the problem for not finding success

You have a T-Girl..so now what??

For you guys who haven’t dated or been in the company of a transwoman (ladyboy, shemale..etc.) here a a few tips. This is for actual dates where you meet for dinner or drinks or coffee and money is not exchanged for the company. This can also be used for those just befriending the transwoman.

1) DO: Use correct pronouns. SHE is not a “He” no matter what the doctors said at birth.

2) DON’T: Tell her she looks like a woman. Compliment her on how she looks (if you feel like it), but for goodness sake don’t act surprised. That tells her you expected a “man in a dress”.

3) DO: Be punctual, or communicate if you wil be running late. It’s polite and lots of TGs get stood up. Being really late with no explanation or warning tells anyone that they aren’t really important.

4) DON’T: Ask her what her “Real” name or “boy” name is. This probably brings up an unpleasant time in her life and it is often used by people to keep us in our place as “not really women” or “failed men”.

5) DON’T ask to see a picture of when she looked like a guy. Same as above but way way more. If you ever do see a picture of her from this time, understand that she is showing you herself when she was probably feeling her worst.

6) DO: Try to impress her. You don’t have to treat her like a princess, but you should use your best dating manners (ask what she likes to do, pay attention to her, smile alot).

7) DON’T: Treat her like your buddy. It’s like above, but more. Don’t leave her alone while you chat up another girl. She won’t take that as well as your guy friends would. Walk her to her door, even if you aren’t getting sex.

8) DO: Understand that she is an individual and has her own likes and dislikes. It will help your cause if you don’t assume too much about her.

9) DON’T: Ask about her genitalia or transgender history in public, or at least do it quietly. Most of us try to live unobserved in our daily lives. Broadcasting that your date has or had a penis is simply not safe for either of you.

10) DO: Have fun! Take her to a place you are both comfortable, get to know each other, laugh and makes jokes, be relaxed and be prepared to have a great night with a woman who will notice and appreciate every little kindness and polite gesture you make.

Monday, August 31, 2009

Respect my Hustle

I have titled my vlog on youtube and my non adult blog Mind Speak for a reason. Its my common sense blog where I speak about all the things that I feel, my opinions on life myself and the world around me.

Today we gonna talk about people with home based businesses. You know I am known for being blunt and direct if nothing else. This post will be short simple and to the point.

You can not put value on the choice of career that someone has many people on the net have home based businesses from web design, to promoting, to shopping sites to porn or cam sites.

Just like many of you are sitting at work shooting the shit to make your day go faster so are many of us. People to respect the work of others, even if that is not a choice of career for yourself. There are many of you that clean the shit of others and personally that is something I just can't do but I respect the fact that you are doing what need be done for you to do for yourself.

Imma speak about adult entertainers because that's what I do and I am qualified to talk on the subject. Don't think cause you friend us on myspace, twitter or any other social networking site that you are getting an in. Guys and girls that are my real friends know what I do for a living and they respect that. While some folks do this for attention the majority of us have homes, families and lives. This is a real job to us regardless of how you may feel about it.

I realize that everyone is not interested in paying for cams, fone sex or my website. I don't treat people I meet as clients I put it on the table the men that can afford me and want me know how to find me. I don't have to come to these social sites for that. If you on a social site be social that's all I am saying.

So since it's not something that is taught at home Imma give you some easy rules to help you not get your ass cussed out and blocked.

1. Just cause someone doesn't leave home to go to work don't mean that the way they earn their money is not valid. We pay taxes and have bills to maintain.

2. Your compliments do not pay the bills

3. Don't feel you can monopolize the time of a girl sitting at home and expect her to stop doing what she is doing cause you feel like talking. Successful people are successful due to hard work and dedication.

4. In all honesty my fans are members of any of my sites all the rest of you are at best just cool people I talk to on the net when I am not busy.

5. If you gonna be a friend be a friend dont be trying to be nice to come along later asking for free pic, movies, or cam shows. Not kosher.

6. All of us in the adult industry have enough free content out there already its rude to ask for more cause you can't afford to or aren't interested in paying for more. OH WELL

7. We are not entitled to answer every im or email you send like I said previously we are multi tasking and if one of my paying members comes in even if I was having a convo with you I can't always brb you. Yes they take precedence over you and if you cant understand that OH WELL

8. Sums it all up RESPECT MY FUCKING HUSTLE

Thursday, August 27, 2009

Chanel the Diamond (Please Retweet)

I always speak about living your life like a diamond cause as people we should be just like diamonds multi faceted. Far too often people are one dimensional when to be beautiful and brilliant in life just like the diamond we should have many sides to us to bring out the true value of ourselves.

It's no secret that I am in the adult entertainment industry I have it in big letters on everything I do. Also its no secret that I am transexual another thing I don't feel the need to hide. I am a proud individual. I don't let any one side of my life dictate or supercede any other parts. The whole of who I am as a person is part of my complete make up. I am more than my race, I am more than my gender and I am more than my career.

I made another post I define me. I truly live the words I speak. I have never lived by the limitations of the small imaginations of others. I believe that I was born in perfection a creation of god.

I never worked under different names cause I never felt I had anything to hide so I didn't see the point in it. I know many people that do work under different names and have separate myspace accounts and the such I just never wanted to be bothered with the double life. Here a lot more lately people seem to think of me in their onesided way of thinking and not really know just who it is they are talking too.

This is part of the reason for my making two separate twitter accounts my regular TSSexyChanel account and the TSDiabolique account. When I came to twitter it was to just be able to interact with my friends and just like my youtube channel things exploded. Now I am home all day and this confuses some people I run a business from home. I have been in the adult industry full time for sometime now and only enjoy the success and luxuries that I have by respecting my business and demanding that everyone else do the same.

Too much lately my personal life and my business life have become mingled and that's not how I operate.

Now about my twitter accounts or actually any social net working sites let me explain to you why I am around.

First to the ladies no one is on any site trying to have your man or compete with you. I come to the net to do me in spite of you. I tell people all the time I don't do the competition thing. I frankly feel I am so unique I am in a category all my own. The money I spent on hair make up and surgery is for my enjoyment. It Pleases ME to like what I see when I look in the mirror even if all of the internet says I am not attractive. Find that within yourself and experience the peace of happiness with self outside of the validation of someone else, then you will understand and know just what I feel.

To the men I have lots of male friends and I am not one of those trannies that goes about trying to turn men out. I frankly dont have the time or patience I prefer that the men that want me know what they want already cause we have to deal with the reality of the situation if we fuck you gonna make me cum that is not negotiable and sucking your dick aint gonna make me cum. If I speak to you don't think just cause I am in porn or you have an attraction for me that we gonna get down, I am just cordial I don't feel the need to be a bitch just cause I dont see you like that dont get things twisted.

I like most of you am sitting at my job when I am on the net just kicking the breeze and bullshitting to make my work day go faster.

My TSSexyChanel account will be a more real sense of my life and if you are only interested in the XXX stuff or another industry person networking TSDiabolique is the page for you.

Don't try to friend me butter me up and all that shit to try to get free convo, pics cams, movies or sex. A bitch is 40 and I didn't get this old or this rich being no fool. Just cause I don't call you on your bullshit don't think I don't know whats going on. LOL

Everyone nurture all the sides of yourself the good and bad and indifferences. Find out who you really are and develop yourself to be Uniquely YOU

Take care pumpkins

Chanel

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

Now is the time to cherish those we love!!!! Wisdom 4 my babies

Today makes 8 years the passing of Aaliyah. I was one of the people too that was shocked and saddened by her unexpected death. Like I said though during my video for the death of Micheal Jackson we have to celebrate life. You should cherish everyday that you have and with those you love cause one never knows how long we will have. Life is a gift not a guarantee. How many babies come into the world to take one breath and die?

People said the same things about her death as they are now doing the death of Micheal Jackson how unfair it is yadda yadda yadda this bothers me because to say death shouldn't come to certain people when it is predestined for all of us is to question God.

When we appreciate people while we have them we can celebrate the life of them when we don't. Sure its gonna hurt but we will have those loving memories of them that will comfort us in those times. You will have an acceptance and peace with the fact that even though you don't understand it, everything is still ok.

I personally think just one day of life is a blessing especially knowing that so many never left the womb breathing.

If you got love for Chanel I need to know now. Memorializing me after I am gone will do no good for me or you. I won't hear it or know it and you will only intensify your grief.

A lot of the pain we feel at the passing of someone is the fact that now we can't do what we should have done or said while they were here. How sad we let people leave the world not knowing how we felt about them. All the tweets to me after the fact will be meaningless I will be on a new better existence where twitter is not needed.

Love someone today

take care pumpkins

Chanel

Now is the time to cherish those we love!!!! Wisdom 4 my babies

I personally think just one day of life is a blessing especially knowing that so many never left the womb breathing.

If you got love for Chanel I need to know now. Memorializing me after I am gone will do no good for me or you. I won't hear it or know it and you will only intensify your grief.

Love someone today

take care pumpkins

Chanel

Monday, August 24, 2009

I define ME( required reading for my babies & friends)

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Today I will be talking about hate. People throw that word around a lot, especially on the internet. I am someone that recognizes people not only for what they do but the real driving force behind the things that they do.

I am someone that is always unbothered when folks try to bring me down, especially when they are not someone that I even know. I recognize the feelings that my confidence and ability to love myself inspite of brings up in people. Far too many people have low self esteem and feel shitty about their lives and it pisses them off to see other people have what they want in life.

When people call me ugly its not my beauty they are hating on cause a lot of times these same people are rather attractive its the self love that they don't feel for themselves that they wish they had. They get pissed cause they don't necessarily wanna look like you look but they are jealous of that peace that we have with ourselves.

Just like when you are doing something with your life and you are going places there will always be nay sayers that sit back and grumble trying to tell you that you think you all that or you think you better than someone else. Don't let them put those judgements on you or your life. Don't accept it into your spirit. I think I am the shit and not because I am better than anyone else I am the shit all on my own because I was born with the unlimited power of the universe inside of me and at my disposal.

I am not resposible for the self esteem of anyone other than myself. Katt Williams said it best its called self esteem for a reason. I will not be less than I know I can be to make someone else feel comfortable about themselves. If you feel it the problem is not me its you and you must do what you need to do to rectify your situation, cause all I do I do for me not to impress, belittle or seek the aproval of anyone else.

So todays encouragement for my pumpkins, my children, my friends and supporters is to grasp and harness the power that is available to us all don't worry about the mummurings of others let them talk. When you are going places in life there is always gonna be more people talking bout you than there are supporting you. You have to move on be you and do you inspite of them. Words only have the power you give to them let them say what they want it doesn't make it true until you validate their stupidity with acknowledgement. Pay them no mind.

Be uniquely you

Image is nothing a real life is everything.

I define ME( required reading for my babies & friends)

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face.zip (3729 KB)

Be uniquely you

Image is nothing a real life is everything.

Sunday, August 23, 2009

Testing 1-2-3

Trying to make things better

I've got a big ego

Now that I have finally figured out the easier simple to blog I will be updating a lot more often. I get so many emails on all the different social sites that its impossible to answer them all. Also with my youtube channel, twitter, myspace and facebook, I have so many subscribers and friends that its near impossible to know everyone. I figured thru a blog I can be more interactive to the people that have taken interest in Chanel and the things that I have to say.

I recently have been getting emails late of course because I rarely find the time to check all the mail on the many places that you can find me on the net. I seem to be online all the time because for the most part I am but that's usually maintaining my business, I have the luxury of working from home. That business is only successful when I do what I must do and treat it as a "real job"

When I started my youtube channel it was for my make up diva's I loved interacting with people that shared one of my favorite hobbies. I then did a series on self esteem and the subscribers came in droves. My popularity outside of the realm of adult entertainment exploded on the net when people started to get a sense of who I was outside of the work.

I got some emails lately that had me kinda bummed out there used to be a time when I knew all my subscribers and people on social sites but its just more than I can keep up with at this time. Everyone still is as important to me as when my channel was smaller. I had to take my own advice that I can't be all things to all people I wish I could and if I give too much of myself with out taking care of me first there will come a time when I will be no good to myself or others.

I am not one of the youtubers coming to youtube for my shot at fame or being noticed I was very well known on the internet before youtube even existed. When I started vlogging outside of the make up tutorials I truly wanted to make a difference and that is still my stance. I am not so bored that I have nothing else to do but make videos. There is always some work I could be doing to further my business and every minute I spend on youtube takes away from that so if I am going to be missing money I want it to matter. My channel must have purpose its not about just being seen. That is why most times I am championing a cause or giving light to the injustices of the world. I still love my make up and hair and will be getting back to my tutorials too.

In essence this post can be summed up with two of my most quoted quotes.

Image is nothing a real life is everything!!!!

We are all diamonds multi faceted and all the parts is what makes us who we are.

I love you pumpkins

Chanel

I've got a big ego

In essence this post can be summed up with two of my most quoted quotes.

Image is nothing a real life is everything!!!!

We are all diamonds multi faceted and all the parts is what makes us who we are.

I love you pumpkins

Chanel

Testing 1-2-3

Trying to make things better

Friday, August 21, 2009

Follow Friday Please Retweet

I follow some of the most amazin people on twitter and in an effort to not clog up time lines with all the people that I think are amazing, funny, talented or inspirational I am always looking for an easier kinda more effective way to show love to these people. Now I think I will be doing this weekly dont quote me yet LOL. It will be impossible to get everyone in todays post so I will do a few every week so if you aren't in todays list please dont be insulted the fact that I follow you means you obviously are someone I feel is worth paying attention too. You will be in a future post.

A few of my good friends have all come up with different ways of making it work. So here goes.

Wadecreate an artist and producer of one of my favorite news programs WGN News here in Chicago. She gave me the idea to blog a follow friday list and she is such an inspiration.

The adult entertainment friends are as follow:

SaReneeLee funny sexy huge boobs nuff said LOL

Princess Tiffany my boo stank make them fools break the bank love hurrr

SweetCandiesXXX funky sexy rocker chick and my nite time company

TheFamous Fury my bff in real life we have worked together for some years now & she is devastation on the ass shaking

Sexy Sapphire a new friend who also go by Bmorejewel

Princess Lynne a home town spoiled brat whom I adore

Blkpoppie_187 DMV area producer with lots of hot new sites bout to take the East by storm

Make up Diva this week is JesMakeup

My featured children are

Dyvon , Duane, Joel , Pixie , Twin Vision, Xmarksthespot, ShawnQT, Ty

My best friends Gutta, Davie, Rico, CjKaiTv , Wicked Bitch, The PBG, Veesha, Jervae & Erycahkane

My I can't live without a tweeps

Dequese My ride or die I love her more than cheesecake and thats sayin a lot

Sinnamon shoes Haute couture and boobs

Diva's Mistress yeah bitches she back can't keep a G down *** side eye***

Miss Jia even though me and that chick gone fight

Kingdingaling and not for the reasons that his name might lead you to believe he da realest out hurr.

Again if you didnt make todays follow friday you will be in a future posting if you continue to entertain me tee hee hee

Check out all these folks and thanks for all the recommendations

love you pumpkins

Chanel

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

Love Starts At Home

In our fight to be accepted and respected in the world we need to start doing our parts as well. Far too many of the LBGT community takes serious offense when we are discrimated against in the world, when many of us do this to our own kind.

It is time to end the LBGT hate and discrimination first only with unity will we even be accepted as a valid people. This is a struggle that can not be won by a handful of people but as a community.

How can we possibly enact any change when many of our attitudes toward each other are so nasty. Gay hating gays, trannies hating trannie, trannies hating lesbians and trannies hating gays. This is a bad case of pots calling kettles black.

When so many people are being killed and beaten for who they are is it really so important who is prettier, who has the most designer labels, who slept with whom, who has the biggest body parts? The same people who will find issue with someone discriminating against them for their sexuality will in turn go to a club or so other place and bash another member of thier same community. Who are you to decide who is fit to be. We were are created in love by a greater being and the very fact of our births makes us valid humans. No one can sit here on this planet and decide who deserves to be.

So in our fight to get our acceptance and respect in the world remember that fight starts at home. First with you changing your attitude, then change your community and finally change your world. It's quite hypocritical to fight for the rights of LBGT communities if you spend the majority of your day tearing down your brothers and sisters.

There are many people in the world that I care not to be around but I can't decide that they don't have a right to exist. One scholar said those who constantly find fault in others suffer greatly from low self esteem. It's easy to point out the fault in others then you won't have to deal with the shit in your own life.

Everthing you want to change in the world you need to do a self assessment first and make sure you are living up to those very same standards. Love self first and it will be easier to love others. If we wish to be seen as more than a bunch of crazed fanatics forcing our lifestyle upon people we need to start acting like people.

Stop feeding fear with hate. Hate begets hate. Educate let them see that you too are a person. Most people's education of our community is from television, movies, talk shows and other forms of media that don't portray us in the best light. You fight ignorance with intellegence.

This week I just want to encourage you to not be a Pot calling a Kettle black. How can you want change when you yourself haven't changed.

Acceptance and Tolerance begins at home until you can love those like you, you will never get the world to accept and tolerate you.

I leave you in love,

Chanel Winn

Tuesday, August 18, 2009

Humans behave Humanely

In this piece I will give a little background into the meaning of hate and the history of hate. First Webster's definition of HATE

Main Entry: 1hate
Pronunciation: \'hat\
Function: noun
Usage: often attributive
Etymology: Middle English, from Old English hete; akin to Old High German haz hate, Greek kedos care
Date: before 12th century
1 a: intense hostility and aversion usually deriving from fear, anger, or sense of injury b: extreme dislike or antipathy : loathing <had a great hate of hard work>
2: an object of hatred <a generation whose finest hate had been big business — F. L. Paxson>

Second their definition of HATE CRIME

Main Entry: hate crime
Function: noun
Date: 1984
: any of various crimes (as assault or defacement of property) when motivated by hostility to the victim as a member of a group (as one based on color, creed, gender, or sexual orientation)

What struck me most about the definition of hate is hostility usually deriving from fear, anger or sense of injury, thus in essence saying hate is and emotion or feeling.

Therefore making a hate crime the action upon that emotion. I titled this piece Humans Behave Humanely for this specific reason. As enlightened thinking beings not given to animalistic behavior or primal urges we as people should be able to control they actions that our emotions may cause.

I will touch on a few bases today first to the LBGT that have experienced hate crimes. Take back the power that your abuser has stolen. You don't have to retaliate violently. Hate Crimes in most states are on the records. Report all incidents of violence. If you go to the links section here you will find some very helpful information. No one has to physically hit you to be investigated this goes up to and includes phone calls, name calling, destruction of property and physical or sexual abuse. Document with the local police and also with the HRC or any other local LBGT agency. Links can be found here on the site.

Next are the LBGT that live an open life and have no discrimination concerns why does it matter to you. It matters to you because when one suffers we all suffer. You will never experience true freedom until all like you share in the same peace that you do. It's your moral obligation and duty to care. You are only living the life you live cause of those before you that have paved the way and/or a good support system around you.

Next to the heterosexual people that think that this issue means nothing to you. Again I say humans behave humanely. You don't have to be a member of a community to find compassion for the afflicted. It was the same its them not me attitude that allowed the Spanish Inquisition, the Salem Witch Trials, Slavery in America, the Holocaust, the Killing Fields in Cambodia and many other atrocoties that are currently going on around the world. As a responsible member of the human race its your duty to stand up against injustice.

And finally the Religious Sect I have a history with Christianity and its the only one I can speak to with complete knowledge. I am in no way picking on Christians of any denomination but we as Christians all no matter what use the same Bible which I have studied intensively. I was going to go to Seminar and actually did have a few classes in theology here in Chicago at Moody Bible institute so I will not just be talking to make myself right I will give you fact.

So in essence to sum it all up to everyone addressed as a Human you have the duty to do the Humane thing and whether it personally affects you or not rights of all people are just that the rights of all people.

A spirit of apathy will ruin a society. If you call yourself remotely educated or a human being you can not live a life of apathy.

That definition being:

Apathy (also called impassivity or perfunctoriness) is a state of indifference, where an individual has an absence of interest or concern to certain aspects of emotional, social, or physical life.

The loss of apathy makes you a animalistic, you are as guilty as the one that throws the punch and you too will be judged by this.

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I leave you in love

Chanel

Monday, August 17, 2009

The Art of Loving Self

I am a firm believer that we are all created in beauty and in love and that something greater than us designed us all to be just as we are. We are constant works in progress and your life should change from one moment to moment, day to day, year to year. As your body matures and you age its not just a physical process but the true person you are grows as well, or it should.

In my mentoring of different individuals and talking with different friends I have found many people struggle with the identification of self. As people we are taught and told who and what we should be to be accepted and loved. This teaching is flawed in the fact that we are all created as individual beings and even the most similiar people have their own identies. Not even identical twins share the exact same details of who they are as people.

I believe its lifes goal and mission to find out your own reason for being. That is who you truely are as a person. Not how you look, what you have or who loves and accepts you. Any successes you have in life will only be icing on the cake once you find life's purpose for you.

Oh what a joy to wake up every day knowing why the heavens decided to allow you to see one more day. The things and people that we think will make our lives better and enrich us more are only temporary fixes for the deep longing with in to know self and why am I here.

Things will rot, can be stolen or unattainable. People will fail you, turn on you and hurt you. To know one's self is something that you can own and truely have forever. The constant search for happiness and acceptance and things to make us feel good about ourselves are giving to us at birth. Each person is designed in love and perfection by a creator that loves us unconditionally.

No matter how far off track your life is to you or what you are doing you can stop, access and make corrections as long as you are breathing. Mistakes and failures are lifes lessons and the only thing that you need be bound up about is if you don't get what the creator is trying to teach you.

You can not know success with out failure, you can not know love with out heartbreak. We are our own worst enemies. When trying to live up to standards you have to ask yourself is this something that I feel I should be doing or something I feel I should be doing to be pleasing in the eyes of others.

This week I encourage all to access yourself where you are at the moment do a real self evaluation strip down butt naked honest with yourself and that which made you. Celebrate what you have come from and make goals to where you really want to be. Don't be worried about the prying eyes of others or their judgement, for we all should be too busy working on ourselves to be concerned with what you need be doing.

Remember this its easier for me as an individual to point out all that is flawed in you and your life and what you should be doing than to sit down and do the necessary work it takes to get my life in order.

NO ONE IN THE WORLD HAS IT ALL ON THE BALL, THEY ARE JUST BETTER AT HIDING IT THAN YOU.

I leave you in love

Chanel

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Saturday, August 15, 2009

The Power of Words

I am a lover of words and I understand the vaue of speech. I think that the ability to voice our thoughts is a gift that we often over look or take for granted. Think aobut this there are other animals that reason but are unable to convey what is going on in their heads. I think this is something we shouldl not take for granted. Sitting up thinking about the ways in which people abuse or misuse words is what inspired my latest Youtube Collaboration Video. I am a firm believer that so a man thinketh so is he. There are many times in our lives where we let other people define who we are and this is not cool. A word in and of its self is nothing. I always use the quote watch your thoughts they become word, watch your words they become actions. Everything we do good or bad starts with a thought nothing just happens automatically even when we think that we are just doing things on instinct. I was thinking about the judgements we have of others and those that people have of us and thought about just what is the root of this.

Too many people feel that our thoughts and opinions are based in stone. But as free thinking animals and having the ability to reason and learn. We should know that when we know better we do better. We can not be so caught up in our current feelings to not be able to rationalize and debate with ourselves how true this thinking of ours is. There were many prior thoughts of past generations based on the facts available at the time that people accepted but we find out to be not true now. The only absolutes in life are math 1+1 will always be 2 but when it comes to people and human nature that is a thing of constant change as we evolve and our conciousness about the world around us and the people in it gets bigger.

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Thursday, August 13, 2009

Who is Chanel?

I think that the first few post for this blog will be the many facets of who I am as a person. Do to the fact that their still seem to be so many people that are ignorant to the fact of who I am as a person outside of he net. I tell people all the time people are like diamonds multifacted there are so many different components to us that make us who we are and valuable as people. I define who I am and I don't accept the opinions of others as my reality. We all have one life to live and peoples time would be better spent making the best life for self instead of worrying about what someone they will probably never meet is doing.

So since so many people seem to be interested and my life has always been an open book I figure who better to give you the "truth" about Chanel than Chanel. One can not seriously think that seeing one video reading a small paragraph or asking someone that doesnt interact with me on a daily basis to honestly know anything about me. At best you will get an intelligent opinion but more than likely you will have no concept of who I am at all.

It's easy to try to dehumanize people we don't know. But as a highly educated girl with a Master's in Psychology I know the source of most peoples judgements. I spend most of my day analyzing peoples actions and behaviors. its kinda a game with me and something I enjoy doing. Installment one of Who is Chanel coming tomorrow.

The more you read about me you will be surprised you will really be learning more about who you are as a person.

Chanel

I think I am gonna love this

I think I will be able to more keep up with my Mind Speak blog which is my common sense non adult blog on my observations and views of the world. As many that already know I am a no nonsense kinda girl that pulls no punches I speak my mind and don't like folks dancing on my toes. As Judge Judy would say you can't piss on my cupcake and tell me its frosting. If you open your mind past your insecurities and judgements you might find that I am just Nellie from the block and someone you could learn from, like hell maybe even respect one day.

Stay tuned.

Chanel