OH REALLY? YOU WANNA BE MY MAN?

 

I am often asked a lot of questions about do I have a man do I want a man and my personal life so I will let you all know a little bit about my personal life so I dont have to keep answering the same emails over and over year after year.

 

I am single and this is by choice. I have a philosophy that when you go out seeking a relationship you usually end up with something you really dont need. I am building a relationship with myself and getting to know me and hoping that the person who I eventually end up with is doing the same. The time I feel people put into being with someone could be better spent improving themselves. I like the idea of having a partner someone that I can call my own but not so much to the extent I am just willing to accept any old thing and behaviors just to say I got a man. When Chanel makes the leap its gonna be all or nothing. 

 That being said what kinda man does Chanel want. I like a man with intelligence and common sense above all else. If I find him to be an idiot I dont care how fine he is its not gonna last long. I like a man that is self assured not that phony swag but a man that is confident in who he is and his abilities in the bed but more so out the bed. I want a strong man someone proud of who he is. Character is verrrrry important. If I don't respect you and or your existence I could never give myself to you. He should have goals and dreams and do more than talk about them. I want him to be a hard worker. Attentive to my needs and feelings. He should be able to hold a conversation he should be able to be a chameleon like me he should be able to relate to people from the streets to the boardroom. He should be able to maneuver in and out of any situation. I like really independant men as thats how I am I hate needy clingy people. I don't need a man that constantly needs and ego stroke from me. Respect is key with out it we will never have anything. He should be socially concious and have a sense of compassion for the earth, animals and his fellow man. He needs to have some sense of a God I am not hung up on religions but to me people that dont realize that there is something bigger than us out there and me aren't a good match for each other. 

Now physically I am partial to black and Latin men but this is not mandatory. I like them tall also not, mandatory cause some of the shorties be so damn cute cant help but love them. I like a man with big hands and big feet not for the reason you think lol cause we all know I have 9.5 inches and some of the smallest hands and feet around. These feet and hands some be manicured and pedicured on a regular that is definitely mandatory. I like sexy lips, deep soulful eyes, a wonderful smile that when his lips part he has some great teeth. I like a man that takes pride in his appearance in the way he wears his clothes and grooms his hair. He must exude a humble confidence that doesn't seem too cocky. I prefer uncut men even though its not mandatory. Cut or uncut his hygiene must be on point at all times in all areas. I like a nice bubble ass. I don't like them too muscular I like a nice tone body. Tatts and dreads are a big turn on. I hate gold grills. Please pull you damn pants up I dont wanna see your damn drawls til we ready to fuck .  Tatts should be kept to a minimum unless you have a theme going on and it all ties in together. Age should be 21 - 35 I have a thing about being the older woman although I would take older and maybe a year younger. LOL

Now if you read through the list of what I would like physically and you don't meet the criteria make sure that you have everything is kinda man I want section. Cause if you got all that I am definitely willing to give it a shot. LOL I can help anyone with their looks but if you got a fucked up personality and no character you are probably gonna have it for life. LOL

 

Hope this lets you a lil more into my very private world 

 

Take care 

 

Chanel

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See Bitches for Who They Really Are.

I can never get all my thoughts out in video so I will expand my views on videos that I think need more attention. Above is a video I posted on self acceptance. Enjoy

I want to talk though about "bitches". I am a firm believer that no one is born inherantly evil or good. In fact I think we all possess good and bad qualities and they are all necessary to our personality to be who we are as people.

I think people wouldn't be so affected by people with terrible attitudes if they saw people for what they truelly are. I will use Tyra as an example and I have to say I personally have nothing against her at all. She seems to grind the gears of so many people and I will say that she is a little annoying to me as well but hell I am 40 all kids annoy me LOL

People think she is just an evil bitch but when I really look at her I see a child still trying to find herself. If peel back the MAC too you will see a child who is never complimented for anything outside of her beauty. It's easy to see why her whole sense of self esteem is wrapped up in how she looks.

Let's talk about other of bitches my best friend Vanessa and I used to be bitches and this was stemmed from the fact that we figured no one liked us anyway with out even knowing us we figured might as well give them a reason. This too stemmed from esteem issues this is something I still struggle with all the time. I have just resolved that I will not let anyones actions or opinions of me change me from being the kind of person I want to be. I work daily not to feed into it by being the expected bitch.

Then there are the hurting bitches like many forms of abuse. Those who have been hurt usually turn out to hurt others later. Crazy as it seems this is the cycle of abuse. The abused become the abusers.

So if you stop and look at the bitches around you will find out that bitchiness is a defense mechanism. You will see these bitches as insecure, hurting, unsure fragile beings.

GIVE A BITCH A HUG

DON'T CONTRIBUTE TO THE HATE

BITCHES AREN'T BORN THEY ARE MADE

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